Why I didnt wear purple

I was talking to a friend after work last night and she asked “did you wear purple” now being the person I am I said “What the hell am I wearing purple for” she laughed and said “In support of the young people who have killed them selves due to bullied for being gay” I cracked the hell up laughing and that’s what brought me to this blog. (Disclaimer: I say how I truly feel if you disagree that’s fine but do realize your words are just that..WORDS)
        My views on the latest news on the young killing themselves due to being bullied for being gay: I am 32 years old and a mother of 4 and these stories don’t touch my heart at all, what touches my heart is the parents who have allowed their children go through these situations and not support or teach their children how to deal with LIFE. When I was growing up kids used to pick on me because of my eyes and due to them picking it prompted me to have 11 different eye surgeries and still today wanting the 12th. The one thing it didn’t do is make me want to kill myself because believe me if I was going to kill myself it wouldn’t be because of the stuff happening in school it would be the hell I had going on in my home. Needless to say I would come home upset because someone called me a name and either my mom would hold me, rock me or my father would tell me to go back to that school and kick their ass (his words) or I would ask my cousin Sommre to beat them up because at that time I was scared to fight. See we have been bullied since the beginning of time and its our place as parents to teach our children to deal with the unkind words or we as parents need to step up to the plate and protect our children. I believe this world has gotten to the point where we just let our children out in this crazy world and let TV and videos raise them instead of raising them ourselves. I have a very close relationship with my children they come to me for everything from someone call them stupid to someone rolled their eyes. My children know how to defend themselves very well and that could have been learned at home or amongst eachother. All I know is it starts at home building self-esteem in your children making them feel loved and letting them know the outsiders don’t matter it’s the love I show that matters. As far as these young people I feel a different way because my question is Why is it so important for everyone at school to know you are gay? Why does being gay define who you are as a person? We have to remember its not a secret but there is such a thing called your private life and school has nothing to do with your sexuality. When I was in school it wasn’t who likes girl and who likes boys it was “When is it time to go home” or “when is the next school dance” see life is so private that they don’t even post the grades you make in school because that’s PRIVATE…they also don’t post how much your parents make because that’s PRIVATE.. they don’t post where you were born or how much you weigh hell they don’t even walk around telling people your ethnic background. So why are so many young people running around yelling IM GAY…NO what you are is a young person trying to find you place in this world, in school with hopes of being someone important, trying to make a significant difference in this world and believe me it doesn’t start with flaunting the fact you like the same gender. I will today and tomorrow and hell always believe I am a 32year old African American woman who is educated and goal oriented, a woman who has 4 beautiful children, and has also had a very hard life that happens to be gay….Parents please remind our children whats important in life and really who you want to sleep with has nothing to do with school, money, or work its just an added bonus. So all in all its horrible how people can treat others but whats worse is the parents not being their for their little ones to do all they can to defend them and be there for them in horrible situations. Love your children because the only one that will love them more than you is God but he would prefer if you do your job so he can spend time working on those who don’t.